"Life is short. Have an affair" is Ashley Madison's tagline And it seems millions of people (mostly men, I understand) have signed up, in total confidence as they thought, to get their rocks off in a completely no-strings-attached way. Imagine their mortification then, when hackers broke in and outed the whole damn miserable lot of them.
There's nothing wrong with having an affair, is there? AM subscribers might ask. The answer is, unfortunately for them, yes there is. Way back in the 80's, a male friend and I subscribed to this adage:
Once you stick your thing in, it gets complicated.
It doesn't say exactly that in the Bible, but that book's proscription of extra-marital sex does go to the same issue, as does contemporary law, which sees it as sufficiently serious to be grounds for divorce.
Put it another way, carnal relations between two people are always complicated, because sex is never just physical; it involves a whole range of powerful emotions, not only to those notoriously emotional beings called women, but to men as well. So, men, beware sticking your thing in: it gets complicated straight away, whatever Ashley Madison might want you to believe. Sex without feelings is no more than masturbation or paying for a hooker. Any other kind of sex is a big deal, and should only be engaged in with great care and sensitivity regarding one's own feelings and the feelings of any prospective partner.
"Ashley Madison", I forget the real name of the website's owner, would want you think otherwise, but then he would, wouldn't he? He's made millions out of selling a dangerous myth, though I am pleased to report that those profits may have taken a bit of a hit in recent weeks. Good.
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